Those kids graduate and pretty much continue to have the same dating woes — only now with fewer single people around living in the same building and sharing meals with them every day. Take piano, violin, tennis, swimming and Tibetan throat-singing lessons. Be ‘well-rounded.’ Well, you’re a talented little bugger. At the same time, there’s an opportunity cost associated with achievement.So if they had challenges then, it gets about 1000 times worse once they’re expelled from the warm womb of alma mater. On the other hand, it makes screw it up (or a computer). Time spent studying, doing homework, and practicing the violin is time not spent doing other things — like chasing boys or girls, which turns out is fairly instrumental in making you a well-rounded human.Dating is at best another extracurricular, #6 or #7 down the list, somewhere between Model UN and intramural badminton.
If he’s going to bars every night or playing video games, do either of those activities worry you?
I think this is a great question — I’ve been there on both counts, and I think it’s something that can be unique to overachieving chicks. (And apologies in advance for every time I say “he” or “the guy” — I really do just mean the person you’re dating, but it can be so much more awkward to write.) First, let me start by saying that in the beginning, I wanted a guy who was “more” than me — taller, smarter, richer, more successful.
(Hey, I’ll admit it.) After a few years on the New York dating scene that was whittled down to “taller” — and I was even flexible on that point.
As NLRB hearings resume in Philadelphia on Monday over whether the grad students — who teach, assist in laboratories, and perform research — have properly formed a group for a union election, students who don’t want a union had said they needed legal help to keep pro-union forces from “continuing to harass” them, as they said on their website.
“During our campaign, it was becoming increasingly clear that we simply did not have the experience and knowledge about the intricacies of labor law,” the group’s website said.