I know that there are certain norms in Islam that has to be followed while meeting people of the other sex.
Now in situation when you are to decide whom to marry, how do you go on discussing this issue with the opposite sex so that the meeting remain within the norm of Islam?
Are you going to do what your Mom says the rest of your life, or are you going to go with the man of dreams? KATRINA: When I came out of the wedding ceremony, I saw that not only had my name been changed, but my religion had been changed also. SCOTT ROSS (reporting): It didnt take long for Katrina to realize this was not what she bargained for.
KATRINA: I had compromised the deity of Jesus Christ.
Just as Allaah imposed the condition of chastity on women, meaning that they refrain from zinaa, so it is also imposed on men. So they should be ghayr musaafiheen, meaning they should not be adulterers who do not refrain from sin and do not refuse any who come to them (for immoral purposes).
Nor should they be muttakhidhi akhdaan, meaning those who have girlfriends or female lovers with whom they have an exclusive relationship, as quoted above from Soorat al-Nisaa’.
There are several steps to accomplishing this task according to Islamic teachings. Propose through a friend or family to the Sister or her representatives An acceptance verbally of “khitbah” is considered to be an engagement and a mutual pledge for marriage. This is also the case for women who are divorced but are still in their iddah (waiting period).
I recall reading in The Reliance of the Traveller that a woman is not to talk to a non-mahram, even to reply to his salaams).A person should wait until there is a clear sign of acceptance or rejection from the family of the sister.Abu Hurairah reported the Messenger of Allah SAW said; “Let not any of you propose to a woman to whom his brother is proposing.Please understand the following principles as many people take them lightly and make many mistakes.Please read this brief explanation of each section but if more information is needed please research the topic further.